Planning a wedding is an exciting time in the life of a couple. There is nothing quite like thinking about the day the two of you will become one. But as you plan for a wedding, keep in mind that you are also planning for a life together. Among the hustle and bustle of appointments, food tasting, choosing flowers, listening to DJ samples, and visiting venues, many couples forget what they are actually planning for: a marriage. In a lot of ways, planning for a wedding is very reflective of how it is to plan for a life with one another. It is important to keep these things in mind and be intentional about maintaining a connection with the person that you love. Take a look at the following examples to examine how wedding plans can, in many ways, provide you with a better understanding of what married life may be like.
- Blending Families
Creating a guest list can be somewhat challenging, especially if you both desire to keep the list of attendees in your wedding to a small number. Thinking about who will be there for your special day brings to mind the number of family members who will witness the day you say ‘I do’. Aunts and uncles, grandparents, cousins and even second cousins, will become a part of your life. There will be a whole new list of individuals whose names you must know and whose personalities you will come to understand better with each passing year. So as you prepare the guest list of individuals who will be attending your wedding, remember these are the people with which you will likely be spending time in the future. Combining two families in marriage also means combining two families for decades to come.
- Learning to Compromise
While most women have dreamt of their big day, many men have also thought about what they would like to experience on the day of their wedding. For both men and women, it is important to learn how to compromise with one another during the process of planning the wedding. Both partners should have the opportunity to voice what they would like to see on that special day and allow that day to be a reflection of how the two of you have learnt to compromise in other areas of your life as well. Working things out together is a vital skill to learn sooner rather than later!
- Listening to the Needs of One Another
As well as learning to compromise, planning a wedding also entails listening to the needs of one another. This phase of your life can be stressful at times; it is important to remember that fact and to encourage and support one another by way of listening. It is easy to get caught up in all of the details, and forget that each of you has individual needs in addition to what is going on in the midst of planning. Just as you will learn how to listen to one another’s needs during the wedding planning process, those same skills are carried over into the rest of your life, often without even the use of words.
- Picking your Battles
Wedding planning is not always fun and games. Sometimes it can be challenging to compromise and listen to each other’s needs, and unanticipated arguments might arise. During these times, it is important to remember what means the most to the two of you. There are some arguments that are not worth having, and if pursued will only create more tension in the relationship and potentially damage the precious parts of your relationship that are being carried into the marriage. Picking your battles is a skill that is difficult to learn but is an important tool of wisdom.
- Taking Time out of your Schedules
Lastly, wedding planning can take up much of your time. And sometimes when life is consumed by work, planning, and other scheduled activities, it is difficult to find time for just the two of you. It is important during the process of planning your wedding to make time for one another. This time should be one of enjoyment and pleasure and one that can be treasured for the rest of your lives. In the same way, learning how to take out time for one another during one of the most stressful periods of your life can afford you the ability to do so later in life when other curveballs are thrown your way.
Author Bio:- Sylvia Smith is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support, and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.