Vannesa and Andrew’s love story is quite intriguing. The couple attended the same Uni and the same church. Vanessa and Andrew had crossed paths couple of times but one day Vanessa had the courage to say ‘hi’ to Andrew. They became good friends and started dating afterwards. But when Vanessa had to relocate to London, the long distance also caused an emotional distance between them. This had great effect on their relationship and they both agreed to go their different ways. Vanessa found love again but she knew something was wrong deep down inside her. She misses Andrew, so did Andrew! Until one day, Andrew decided to take a bold step to win his woman back to himself and that was when the magic happened.
When it comes to true love, sometimes timing is everything but Love will always find a way And, if it’s a bond that is truly meant to be, it will happen when the moment is right.
Vanessa is a creative ‘DIY’ bride! She designed her beautiful wedding dress, the bridal party dresses & her mum’s.
Enjoy their beautiful love story + romantic proposal…….
The Beautiful Meeting & Unique Proposal
Andrew and I met in 2005 in Leicester when they were both studying in Leicester University. I became a born again Christian after attending his dad’s church, but I never knew that Andrew was the pastor’s son. We met a couple of times on campus until one day I found the courage to say hi because I noticed that I knew him from somewhere. Back then, I used to write poetry, so we exchanged emails (the times of MSN) and I sent him the poem. He seemed really interested in my passion and I was also intrigued by his humility and passion for music. We gradually agreed that we would start courting after 9-12 months of friendship. Andrew was born and bred in Leicester, so when I graduated and moved back to London, we vowed to each other that we would try our best to continue in what became a long- distance relationship. 1 year down the line (2009), we agreed we couldn’t hold the long-distance for too long so we started talking about marriage. As every girl would know; this put my hopes up but nothing had happened even 2 years after we spoke about this.
It became a little frustrating but the pressures of the long distance also caused us to distance a little, and so in 2012 we mutually agreed to separate. We never decided if this was temporary but we were trusting in God that if this was permanent he would provide us with the right ‘mate’ at the right time. A year on I felt like I was moving on and even started to pursue dating, but deep down inside it felt strange. Not knowing Andrew felt the same (but we hadn’t spoken to each other for a long time to reveal this to one another. When we finally did speak, I broke some news to Andrew that I was being pursued by someone else so this probably meant that we were not meant to get back with each other. Andrew as humble and courteous as he was deep down was hurt but said he wants me to be happy and that ‘he will always fight for me’. These words never left my soul. After a few months of dating, things didn’t work out and the person I was seeing decided he wasn’t ready to take things further. I didn’t tell Andrew about what happened, but exactly a week later on Wednesday 13th February 2013 Andrew sent me a card to my house saying ‘happy valentines day’ and I hope you have a great day whoever you decide to spend the day with’.
I was wondering how the card ended up on my doorstep, because it didn’t have a stamp on it and Andrew lives in Leicester. So I went out later that evening and came back to find my eldest sister tell me that she was off to bed so I could lock up etc. The kitchen was the last place I checked and when I turned on the light, Andrew stepped out in a grey suit, a blue tie and a massive bouquet of blue roses. Whilst I was shocked, he said ‘Happy Valentines Day’.
I then realised it was him who delivered the valentine card by hand, He told me he came down to London for a rehearsal and he was due to travel back up to Leicester that night, so he couldn’t help but sneakily send a card and roses.
I told him to sit down and relax before his journey, when he was ready to go he said there was something he needed to tell me. I gave him the go ahead and he read out a love letter about how much he loved me etc.. And all the things he liked about me. After he finished reading, he said he was going to start his journey and thanked me for letting him stay. Just as he stepped out into the corridor; he said there was one more thing he needed to say…. low and behold he got down on one Knee and said; ‘ I told you I will always fight for you… Vanessa will you marry me’ … of course I said yes, and the rest is history. We announced our engagement on Val’s day, February 14th 2013.
About The Wedding
Our wedding had a vintage glamour feel, with an element of afro-carribean tradition and English tradition (Andrew is of Jamaican decent, and I am of Ghanaian decent). We wanted the wedding to depict how we are as a couple, we both love God and life. We love to laugh, we are proud of our heritage. Andrew loves music, I love everything glamorous and fabulous, and I am very detailed- I think we pulled this off.
Unique & Interesting Elements
We are both traditionalists who appreciate a unique and quirky feel. I waned to be different and opted for red lipstick. I designed all my dresses including the bridal party, and my mother’s who was also custom made. I love flowers so we had a beautiful canopy arch for our top table, I also had two bouquets because I didn’t want to throw the one which had crystal jewelry inside it (for keepsake).
I made the birdcage favour boxes on all the tables, with help from my family and friends. My bridesmaids and CBM are my siblings. My CBM is my actually my twin! Our wedding cake was a five tier layer of 5 different flavours;
Oreo, Banana, Strawberry sponge, Lemon sponge, Fruitcake – which we have saved for our first baby’s christening – whenever that happens 😉
• Bride and Groom’s Name
Andrew Haye and Vanessa Haye nee Afful
• Date of wedding : Saturday 31st May
• Location of Wedding Ceremony and ReceptionOverall theme/Colour palette for the wedding : Church: St. John the Baptist C of E church, Loughton, Essex
• Bride’s Wedding Dress and Shoes
Dress – Lusan Mandongus from Teokath of London Bridal store in Wimbledon
Shoes- Jimmy choo
• Bridesmaids’s Dresses and Shoe Designers- Custom-made by Wilhelmina Williams
Groom and Groomsmen Outfit: Groom’s Suit- Austin Reed and Shoes – Aldo
• Stationary Designer: Designed By The Bride- I designed everything myself! And printed via a small business ‘la joy of inspiration’
• Photographer: Abi Rotemi
Website : www.photographybyabi.net
Email: [email protected]
• Videographer: Michael Ibiayo
• Flowers / Centrepieces / Tableware: The centerpieces (Milano candelabras) and large pillar candles were alternated on each table. The canopy arch over the gig table were all installed by essential wedding hire:
Website: www. essentialweddinghire.com. Small favours and props (birdcage place cards and birdcage favour boxes were done by me I run a small business called: Check out the website: coming soon:
• Jewellery worn: Earrings by Swarovski
• Caterer: Pimento Grove Catering
• Cake: Prettygorgeouscakescompany- ‘Cakes by Cynthia
This was a five tier layer of 5 different flavours; Oreo, Banana, Strawberry sponge, Lemon sponge and Fruitcake – which we have saved for our first baby’s christening – whenever that happens 😉
• Makeup: Makeup by Stephanie Dublin-Green (professional MAC make-up artist and freelancer. Instagram name: @stephrocks
• Hairstylist: Hair by Sharon Edmans . Salon name:’I am hair’
Website address : www.iamhair.co.uk
• Décor: Essential wedding hire (as above)
• DJ : Dj Frenchkiss
• MC: ‘Simply Andy’- comedian, entertainer, etc
You can find some examples of his work and events on YouTube
• Event coordinator : Sharon Wint-Gordon- Dream success events www.dreamsuccess.com
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