‘Honey I love your mum, but no she can not move in with us’.
What if we lived in a one bedroom apartment;
What if there were no children;
What if you were still single;
What if, what if….
A lot of times we feel we love our mothers so much and the best place for them is in our home with our husbands/wives. One thing you have to take note is that if your mother is the strong willed type she would probably want to manipulate you and your spouse to do things her way once she moves in with you. Some mothers too can be nosy and feel they need to know what goes on in their son/daughter’s house. If you are having problems in your home especially communication issues, it would be a wrong timing to move in your parent.
A man feels when his wife’s mother moves in, he loses intimacy with her and she would not share all those juicy gists with him again, a man feels a woman respects her mother’s advice better than his own.
A woman feels when her husband’s mother moves in, she loses his heart and starts to compete with his mother for his attention, she feels her space has been invaded. Seriously a woman needs to rule in her own castle, the presence of another queen should be for timed visits and if prolonged should be approved by her. Women naturally intimidate themselves and keeping your favorite women in the same environment for too long is asking for trouble.
Sometimes relatives are better kept in their own space than bringing them in our space to cause havoc.
Make sure to take that decision with your spouse before trying to move in your mother or any other relative. Be wise and never stop trying hard to keep your relationship going stronger!