First and foremost what is cohabitation; In its simplest form, I will say it is an arrangement where two people of opposite gender, that have feelings for each other, and not married, live together without formally registering their relation as a marriage.
Of course, there are factors that may have contributed to the effect of cohabitation, which may range from creating room to spending time together to testing each other. If truly you can eventually settle down with each other. But who actually benefit most from this effect?*
Your reasons for cohabitation might be wrong, or it might be right depending on how you see this act but, If you and your partner are thinking of living together, here are some wrong reasons why you may want to reconsider that option:
1. To avoid or hasten a marriage proposal: This is specifically for the men, as much as living together means everything except that you aren’t married to her. Slowing down on a marriage proposal or hastening it may be a wrong reason to live together.
2. To help you discover yourself: You can never discover your true self by living with your partner. Rather, moving in together would complicate things for both of you.
3. To save cash: If you think you’ll save more money by moving in with your partner, it’s better to go get a roommate. Couples who decide to do this should have good jobs so one doesn’t become a liability to the other.
4. Living together takes the excitement out of being newlyweds: Being a new bride and moving in with your husband to start a life — and perhaps a family — with those shiny new rings on your fingers to show the world your commitment, is a wonderful experience that many women still hope for. Put the cynics and haters on ignore — their bitterness reflects their own choices and reality, not yours. Many, many couples still live “happily ever after” after marriage and you can, too. You just need to know where you want to go in life, and what choices are most likely to get you there.
5. Couples who live together are less likely to get married: Cohabiting couples tend to have a more lax attitude toward commitment and don’t work as hard to stay together. When their relationship goes through a rough spot — as all relationships do — it is all too easy to just walk away. The legal and public commitment of marriage motivate couples to work through conflict, strengthen the relationship and stay together.
6. If you have kids, they need to be protected: Very few unmarried couples who have children end up staying together in other words. Without the commitment of marriage, there is no real guarantee of what can happen to your kids. Many kids end up being molested and abused by their parent’s partner just because most of these partners don’t see themselves as parents to the kids of their unmarried partners.
Source: Sunday Adelaja