There is a whole lot of deals behind getting married. Marriage to some people is a place for childbirth, to some, it’s a comfort zone and others see it as a place where needs are met. Well sorry to disappoint you, marriage goes beyond what you see and read in books and movies. Marriage is an institution that requires some elements to survive the hard times and lows.
Marriage is not for kids, it is for two people that are ready to make it through and stay committed regardless of what life throws at them. When I see couples celebrating 5, 10, up to 20 years’ anniversary, I just can’t help but marvel.
Below are 5 key elements to a successful marital bliss for newlyweds, singles and old couples.
- FIRM FOUNDATION
It is important to build a firm foundation before starting off any relationship. Friendship is the best foundation upon which any relationship is built. When the essence of the relationship is understood from the beginning, it becomes impossible to view your partner as a stranger. Spend quality time on getting to know your partner more. Friendship gets stronger even when you fall out of love. When you marry your friend, you marry a life mate and a partner for life.
Staying contented is one key element to a successful marital bliss. It gives you joy forever. When you are contented with the partner you have, their flaws and imperfections, it is easier to tolerate and accept them. The killer of most relationships is lack of contentment. Definitely, there are people better, smarter, taller, richer, adorable than your partner. But your ability to concentrate fully on your relationship kicks off all distractions. When you
- NEVER TAKE OUT ROMANCE
It is important as couples to understand the essence of romance. So many people ignore this aspect when they get married. Romance helps in keeping the bond and making you fond of your partner. Keep the intimacy burning, never let it go off. There is no big deal in staying romantic or getting intimate with your spouse. Regardless of our busy schedules, create time to be together. Hugs and kisses are good in boosting your intimacy. Sext your spouse from time to time till it becomes a part of the relationship. Even in days, you feel bored, keep romance alive.
- PRACTISE RESPECT
When you respect your relationship, you automatically respect your partner. It becomes a turn-off cheating or doing other things that make the relationship weak. Respect is key to have a successful marital bliss. It fuels the relationship and makes you stay happy for long. A person you respect is a part of you. Remember you are representing your partner wherever you go, so with conscious efforts, you ignore doing anything that humiliates you or your partner. When you respect your partner, you don’t say hurtful things to make a point. When you respect your partner, you learn to appreciate them better.
- BE FLEXIBLE
You can’t be rigid and expect to have the journey smooth. Relationship are not automated, there is always a room for improvement. Make efforts to be spontaneous. Learn new stuff, new ways to make the relationship better. Couples that are not willing to change or learn, find it difficult adapting to change. Go on dates, events, vacations, evening walk and so on. Truth is, at a point, it becomes boring when you do the same thing all over again. What brings the spark back is the little appreciation, love, friendship, flexibility and constant romance. Be willing to make it work, even if it requires switching who makes dinner, does laundry, pay bills. It makes it fun and less rigid.
You can have that successful marriage you have always dreamt of. All it takes is efforts, understanding, commitment, flexibility, trust and love. No relationship is perfect. Never compare your relationship with what you see on social media, what you read in books. Make efforts to make your relationship fun-filled and aspiring.
Culled from Palmchat
Photography: Remi Adetiba